What is Kinky!

Kinky is a word for unusual things: especially things that are sexually unusual. It’s also a term for frizzy hair. As a general term, kinky can refer to anything that is far-out, quirky, or offbeat. More specifically, this is a sexual term for acts that are a little odd, such as a foot fetish.

Kinky is not a bad word. If you are Kinky, then this does not mean you are into absurd stuff but you are thinking more out of the box in comparison with the normal life. From dressing kinky to talking kinky, it is a sort of lifestyle that creeps in and slowly takes over everything and anything you do. However, to discover you have certain kinks might take a long time. You do feel a relationship towards certain items, behaviors, or anything else that arouses the mind in a sexual way.

Certain kinks could involve:

  1. Voyeurism
    Receiving sexual excitement from watching others when they are naked or engaging in sex. There are Micro variations on Voyeurism possible. This can variate from watching without permission to hearing with your ear on the walls having your neighbors having sex while you sexually satisfy yourself.
  2. BreathPlay
    This act mostly refers to BDSM, and it involves having your breathing restricted during sexual activity.  Safety is of importance, and we urge people experimenting with this to first try to hold their own breath and remain fully in control. Breathplay is part of the control of a person and surrounding it, and the power exchange in the BDSM area to your partner. You can only practice this with someone you can really trust!
  3. BDSM
    Bondage, Discipline, domination and submission, this is the Catch-All acronym for BDSM which has a strong foothold in the Kink Community. All the BDSM involves is a consensual exchange of power and control. This means that a submissive person is giving consent to a more dominant person to take control through various scenes.
  4. Scene or Scene Play
    A scene is a term for a time period in which the kinky play goes down. In the kink community, sex acts and engagement are often referred to as Planned Time with Partners in which they engage in their shared kinks are ‘Scenes’
  5. Sadism and masochism
    A sadist is someone who derives sexual pleasure out of inflicting physical pain or psychological humiliation on their partner. Masochism, or someone who identifies as a masochist, is someone who derives sexual pleasure out of receiving pain or humiliation. All happens with consent. Important to know that not all dominants identify themselves as sadists, the same goes for submissive and masochists.
  6. Golden Shower and Piss Play
    Golden showers specifically refer to peeing on a partner, piss play can also include peeing on or in different body parts, clothes wetting, or making a partner hold in their pee as part of the scene play
  7. Edge Play
    Edge play in kink is any kind of activity that is further out there and considered more dangerous, it could mean anything that involves blood or breaking the skin with certain whips, and there are others who enjoy knife and needle play. For some, golden showers may be a regular part of their routine, but for others, that counts as edge play.
  8. Erotic humiliation
    Erotic humiliation exists on a spectrum. It can mean a dominant partner consensually calling their submissive partner names like “slut” during sex. It can also be as extreme as someone being consensually “forced” to watch their partner have sex with someone else in front of them.
  9. Cuckolding
    Cuckolding is a form of the aforementioned erotic humiliation of watching your partner have sex with someone else. And yes, it’s where the term “cuck,” now taken over by the alt-right, came from. A cuck is a male submissive who gets off on his partner having sex with someone else. Sometimes the cuck will watch from the corner of the room. Sometimes the cuck will be verbally mocked for having a smaller penis while his partner has sex with a “real” man, and sometimes the cuck is forced to stay at home, getting off on the knowledge that his partner is out having sex with someone bigger and stronger than him.
  10. CBT
    For the shrinks under us, Cognitive behavioral therapy is not what we describe here. In the world of kink, CBT refers to cock and ball torture, a request from male submissives that pro-dommes get. It’s fairly self-explanatory, and usually involves a dominatrix inflicting consensual pain on a male submissive’s genitals: think to step on testicles while wearing heels, punching and slapping the penis, or “forcing” male submissives to wear an uncomfortable chastity device.
  11. Foot fetish
    Foot fetishes are “shockingly common,” and usually seen in men. Men with foot fetishes may be submissives, and desire to “worship” a woman’s feet through kissing and massage, or even giving a pedicure.
  12. Impact play
    Usually done by a dominant to a submissive, impact play refers to hitting or spanking a partner’s body. Spanking is a common form of impact play, and others enjoy using toys like crops, paddles, or whips. During impact play, To keep impact play safe and comfortable, most partners decide on a “safe word” to stop at any time.
  13. Rope bondage
    This is pretty straightforward. Rope bondage is when a partner restrains another (typically the submissive) using a rope. It can be as simple as using a rope to tie a partner’s arms together, or as intricate as shibari, which is a form of Japanese rope tying and involves intricate knots and patterns and is considered an art form.